When Gerard and I first got engaged, everything wedding-related seemed a little abstract. It was more real than it had been before, obviously, since it was something that was actually going to happen. But it was happening far enough in the future for me have a somewhat lackadaisical attitude about it all. There was no rush and no stress. We were talking about something that was happening seventeen months away.
I watched those wedding planning shows on TV, shows like Rich Bride, Poor Bride and Wedding SOS, and I smugly thought about how my wedding planning would never be as fraught with stress as the wedding featured in those shows.
Now, with precisely eight weeks to go until my wedding, my smugness is sticking in my craw, threatening to choke me.
There is a lot to be done. A scary amount of stuff. The dress is almost complete, the bridesmaids dresses have been ordered, and the church and the reception hall have been booked. Apart from a couple of other minor details like my shoes and my makeup person, that’s pretty much all that’s actually under control.
We finished the guest list last night. Invitations are being printed this weekend and will go out on Monday.
Starting this week, we will be attending mandatory pre-marriage counseling.
Gerard and his groomsmen have to figure out what they’re wearing.
I have to send photos to the person who’s making our cake so she can give me a quote.
Flowers, decor, and guest favours have to be arranged.
I need to confirm a hairdresser.
Transportation has to be sorted out.
The DJ and photographer has to be booked.
We need to decide who the Master of Ceremonies will be.
The rehearsal dinner has to be planned.
And more.
It’s an awful lot of activity to fit into eight weeks.
And so, this weekend, wedding planning has suddenly kicked into full-gear. Out of the blue, Gerard has started voicing opinions about the wedding, and he’s coming up with really great ideas. We have most of the wedding party coming over tomorrow to help us with tasks and ideas. Task lists are being made, ones that have actual deadline dates on them. Our first song has been decided.
Things are happening and a bride-to-be is stressing out.
Somehow, it will happen.
Somehow, we will create a wedding that will, for all the right reasons, be a day to remember.
with 20+ years under my belt, I think it is about the memories. The dress, the church, the reception… In the end it is about the guy I married and who was in attendance, it has nothing to do with the things. To do it all again, I would have a very simple wedding and only a few close guests. I would instead work on the creation of memories. That said, I remember the feelings of stress as the date got closer. It sounds as though you have asked for help and that is great! It will be a beautiful day! Enjoy it!
You are so right. It is so easy to get caught up in arrangements that, when it comes down to it, don’t really matter. This is all about the memories.
Thanks for reminding me of that, and for reading!